This is But I realized that identifying the problem is only half the battle.You invest mental energy in making sure things go a certain way. I have been guilty of stressing over past relationships. Things started out fun and light, I got excited about the possibilities…and then became scared that my imagined future wouldn’t come to be…and then panic set in.Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much? When you care too much, you inevitably become attached to a certain outcome.
Negative chatter is an acquired habit that makes you look insecure and unattractive.Women look for the intimacy and financial stability they didn’t get in their previous relationship(s)—but they are not willing to be a “nurse with a purse” and they will reject men who are sexually impotent or ailing physically or financially.Mature men often date younger women to try to recapture the excitement and passion of their youth.Don’t expect a man to beat your door down if you don’t want to dress up for a night out because you had rather sit at home drinking wine and watch TV in your slouchy pajamas.Negative outlook: No one wants to be around someone who is self-absorbed, narrow-minded or jaded from a previous relationship. Your negative energy comes off as a chip on your shoulder.